‘The guy gets all the glory the more he can score/ While the girl can do the same and yet you call her a whore.’
My iPod was on shuffle a few days back and then the Christina Aguilera song ‘Cant Hold Us Down’ came on. Lil Kim's line got me thinking seriously. Why do we think that way?? I'm pretty sure sex isn't a one sided thing. The girl gains some pleasure too, so why is it that we always say X ‘did’ Y when she also ‘did’ him as well?? Most of us are guilty of calling girls sluts, whores, prostitutes and things along those lines when we hear that a girl had some form of dalliance with some one that wasn’t her boyfriend. The thing is not all girls like the confinement of a relationship but still want action of some sorts on the side.
This quote particularly struck a chord with me;
‘I don’t think a girl’s a slut if she enjoys sex. I could have a one-night stand, and I’m the kind of girl who looks over in the morning and is like, Do you really have to be here? I don’t need to cuddle and do all that stuff because I know what it is and I don’t try to make it more. I feel like a lot of women try to make it into more, so they don’t feel so bad about just wanting to have sex. I don’t really have a problem with wanting sex. Never have.’-Jessica Alba
The latter particularly brings a whole new perspective as it suggests that girls become clingy and possesive not because they've fallen in love with the boy but 'cos they see it as an obligation of some sorts after having that one night stand or little piece of action they had which they're not too proud of but as a way of ridding rid themselves of the guilt they feel for letting their guard low.
The thing is, like boys’ girls have sexual needs too. It's just that we are way better at hiding them.(Mayowa doesn't exactly agree with this). In my opinion, the whole boy-player, girl-slut thing is just another unnecessary gender stereotype which the world could do without. And girls, if you're too scared to do what you want out of fear of what people would say about you, keep in mind that at the end of the day, you're the one that's going to be coming to grips with some missed/rued opportunities.
PS- Do not go around having sex indiscriminately after reading this.
If you do decide to throw caution to the wind, remember to use a condom :)
Give a little, and make the world a better place. *wink* *wink*
Bye for now.
Modele.F (Follow me on Twitter @modzF)